Whipped or Respectful: Will He Bark 4 Times If You Ask?
A woman asked my husband, “Will you bark four times if your wife asks? Laughing, my husband politely replied , “You don’t know men really well, do you”?
Her question insinuated that men who respond to their partners’ needs are “whipped” if he is willing to do ANYTHING for his partner. The reality of this heartbreaking statement is that it demonstrates the fear and misunderstanding women have about the value in letting a man feel empowered by fulfilling her desires. The question is how do you know if your man is whipped or you are a wimp?
Don’t Take Advice From Men Who Diminish Women
If you have similar beliefs, please know, it’s probably an indication of the men that you have been dating, and the toxic messages they have been feeding you. Have your past partners been telling you that a man is not a man if he follows a woman’s lead? However, let me show you the way to a greater mutually beneficial approach to being with a man capable of following a woman’s lead.
Real Men vs. Macho Jerks
A real man will want to love and take care of his woman, as long as she does it in a way that does not leave him feeling emasculated. Haven’t you noticed men in love want nothing more than to do things for the women they love. In fact, the men worth falling in love with are attracted to women who clearly and responsibly ask for what they want. It fuels them! As long as he is able to make you happy from his “manly providing” and gains your respect, he will always be proud to be YOUR man.
The clue here is that men are not whipped when they are with a loving happy woman, who asks in a way that makes a man to want to provide. Naturally, the secret is that you are also a woman who notices his needs and are equally inclined to take care of him. It’s a win/ win love affair of caring for each other.
So why would the good guys enjoy taking care of his woman?
Don’t forget men like being providers. They get a lot of satisfaction from providing. Denying a man of this pleasure will eventually result in a lack of intimacy in your relationship. But I will save that discussion for another time, because it’s advanced relationships 101!
A goddess recognizes a man’s desire to provide
Now that I have empowered you to be a goddess who recognizes that men want you to ask him, so he can provide, let’s point out what a real whipped man looks like!
Your man is whipped if:
- He is with a demanding woman who belittles him
- He is with a women who “takes” all the time without giving
- He is with a woman who “never” allows him to know she is fulfilled by his generosity, forcing him to constantly try to keep the peace by doing more in an unwavering pursuit of her happiness.
These woman are not partners but princess dictators that could substitute their man for a dog on any given day. She has all the power and has little respect for her man. She is completely oblivious to her own behavior and only thinks of him as weak.
Truth: “He became weak, by staying with a woman who selfishly takes advantage of his need to keep the peace.”
How to Recognize a Macho Misogynist
The macho misogynist man that mock men who take care of their woman, is never in a healthy relationship. How could he? He is selfish and self absorbed. He is the kind of guy who won’t do anything you want to do, unless it’s what he wants to do. He cares more about his image than your happiness. You are his love slave, expected to take care of him without reciprocity. You will never win any argument because he will just walk away or worse! He takes you for granted. He believes men are lords and women are just here to submit. Do you want a MAN or a master?
My advice to women afraid of alienating men is to expect and accept an equal partnership. Don’t listen to the dysfunctional experts. Don’t let bad advice leave you alone and emotionally bankrupt. After all, if you were trying to figure out how to make money would you take advice from someone who was broke?
Sadly, the woman who mocked my husband for being a loving partner is destined to be with men who will neglect her, unless she changes her realities of what is a real man. Think about it! She will reject loving men, and continue to crave men who she has to chase after. Hopefully, this article will serve as a wake up call for some women who love men who love to dominate women.
Is that you
